My husband is driving me crazy and can be such an ungrateful little shrew sometimes. Yesterday was Father's Day and I told him that I wanted to get him a bbq (to go with our half done backyard). He said that he would rather wait and get a "really nice one" that he can build out of bricks. I tried my damnest to not roll my eyes and let out a big sigh, but I just couldn't stop it from coming out. He was offended and was like, "What!?!" Now I was in for it. I told him that maybe we could just get one that will work just fine that isn't all elaborate and amazing, and I'm not really ready for him to start another project (check out my earlier post on things being half done for the reason why). He said, "Fine. But can I go with you to pick it out?"
Now, being the smart woman that I am, of course I saw this as, "I want to make sure I get what I want and not what you pick out." Don't think I'm crazy; I've been married to this man for years and know what he really means.
So yesterday for Father's Day, he got nothing.
His birthday is next week and I was trying to surprise him because I know he really wants a gps. Being the dork that I am, I mentioned how much I am going to spend on his present and he said, "You're getting me a gps, aren't you?" I said yes. But that's all; he doesn't know what kind or anything. What he didn't know was that I researched these things out, talked to people, looked things up online and spent a lot of time to make sure I get the one that he wants within the price that we could afford.
This morning, he said to me, " Maybe you should wait to get the gps so we can save up for one because I want a really nice one." He has no idea which one I am getting him or how nice it is!!!! He just assumes that it's not nice enough or that i don't know anything about it. Jerk. He always wants the more expensive one; the nicer one; the better one. Of course there are going to be nicer ones out there, but we can't afford a $400 one right now. Even as it is, I'm spending more than we really have because I know that he wants one so bad. But apparently, that's not good enough. I just don't see the point in spending $400 on one with all the extra bells and whistles that he doesn't need when a cheaper one will do the job just fine. Next year, I'm just going to give him a candy bar.
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My husband is the worst about gifts. He has everything. If he wants it he buys it. If he doesn't have it, it's because he doesn't want it.
He shops for things like boats and beach property. Those are the
things he doesn't have.
I struggle and wring hands over it. He offers NO suggestions. Then he opens a gift and looks at me like "what the hell?" or "what is this?"
In-furiating!!!!!!!!!!
My husband is very much like this with gifts. And he also does it when he buys things for me- I tell him what I want, which model and price range, because I do not like feeling guilty about having spent what I feel is too much. He always overrides me and gets something similar that is too high tech and way more money than I wanted to spend, and then says something like, "but honey, you're worth it and I wanted you to have the nice one." So then I feel twice as guilty, for spending our money and for not being able to appreciate his gesture. he thinks he did something good but it just makes me sad every time.
What is it with them and gifts!?! My husband does the same too when he gets me presents. Don't they just understand that the simple and adequate one will make us more happy than the expensive one. Not to mention the fact that it will give us less stess too over the money. It makes me sad too.
C26: Seriously!?! Boats and beach property!?! wow. You should get him a speedo and a life jacket then. Or a candy bar.
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